I went to lunch recently with a guy, and the discussion about the morethanmarried.com conference came up. Not long into the conversation he started telling me about a friend calling him up and telling him "you're never going to believe what happened to me." Uh-oh! Before he even told me, I started shaking my head...another divorce. He said the guy didn't even see it coming. His wife started another account, took money out of the safe deposit box, etc. It was nasty. He followed that up with generalities about another guy. All of these with more than 20 years invested in a marriage. He said most, if not all of the guys would be willing to try to work things out; but the women were done. (completely aware there are two-sides to every story). One guy (in the midst of the divorce) was out doing his favorite hobby, when he realized he had been doing that twenty-something years to the neglect of his bride. With disgust (with himself) he picked up his "toys" and went home full-well knowing this neglect of time was the major contributing factor. Why 20 years? Duh. After the kids are gone! Life has been going fast. We've been on the same team, and now that common denominator is no longer around. As a pastor, I couldn't really share those stories, but I hear tons of marriages on the brink. Men: WAKE UP! You married for better or worse; but the problem is many men have given the worst of their time to their soul mates. I can say it because I am one: men are selfish creatures by nature. ---For the love of God, for the love of your mate; do whatever it takes to win her back now, before it's too late. ---Ladies: give that pig-headed man you fell in love with years ago a chance. He is by nature a very stupid creature when it comes to understanding you. If he is trying, cut him some slack; because he is trying to defy nature.
If you get this in time go to morethanmarried.com. There is a marriage conference a bunch of us are going to on Saturday September 25.
